Valentine’s Day: Keep Jesus at the Centre and Rest in God’s Love
Valentine’s Day is always interesting. Some people love it, some don’t, and some are just here for the discounted chocolate on the 15th (honestly, I hear it). But let’s be real: relationships aren’t everything - love isn’t just about roses, dinner dates, or having someone special - it starts with God.
1 John 4:19 reminds us, “We love because He first loved us.” Before anything else, we are loved by God, and that is the foundation of all other love.
Valentine’s Day Isn’t Just for Couples
Who said Valentine’s Day is all about romance? Sure, everything on social media screams “couples only,” but that’s not the truth. Love is not just a feeling but a reflection of God’s character. Jesus calls us to love God with all our heart, soul, and mind (Matthew 22:37) and to love others as ourselves. So why should a day about love be limited to romantic relationships? Celebrate God’s love, cherish the people He has placed in your life, and extend love to those who may need it.
Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, Valentine’s Day can still be meaningful. Use the time surrounding it as an opportunity to spend time with God, grow in His Word, and share His love with those around you. Take yourself on a solo date with Jesus; read your Bible, worship, and let Him pour into you. His love is unfailing and never changes, unlike human love, which can be fleeting.
Singleness is Not a Waiting Room
If you’re single, let’s be clear: this is not a waiting room for your "Kingdom spouse" to appear before your life starts. This is a season of preparation, refinement, and deepening your relationship with God. Jeremiah 29:11 reassures us, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” God is intentional, and if you trust Him, He will lead you at the right time.
Romans 12:2 tells us, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” So instead of focusing on societal expectations or timelines, fix your eyes on God. He knows what you need and when you need it. Rather than asking, “God, where is my person?” shift your focus to, “God, how can I serve You in this season?” He is faithful, and in His perfect timing, He will bring the right person into your life but only when it aligns with His will.
Verses to Keep Close
- Genesis 2:18: “It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” God has a plan, trust in His timing.
- Ecclesiastes 4:9: “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labour.” A godly relationship should build you up, not tear you down.
- Psalm 37:4: “Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Seek God first, and everything else will fall into place.
Dating as a Christian: Keeping Jesus at the Centre
Dating as a Christian isn’t about looking cute for Instagram; it’s about purpose and alignment with God’s plan. 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” This means your relationship should bring you closer to God, not pull you away.
Ask yourself:
- Is this person helping me grow in Christ?
- Are we setting godly boundaries and honouring God in our relationship?
- Do we bring out the best in each other spiritually, mentally, and emotionally?
If the answer to any of these is “no,” it might be time to let go and trust that God has better. You are not called to be in a relationship just to fill a void; only Jesus can complete you.
Biblical Couples Who Got It Right (and Some Who Didn’t)
- Ruth and Boaz: A lesson in patience, faithfulness, and divine timing.
- Isaac and Rebekah: Proof that prayer and obedience to God lead to the right partner.
- Mary and Joseph: A testament to trusting God, even when circumstances are uncertain.
Not every couple in the Bible had it figured out (some of their stories were messy, let’s be real), but the common thread in godly unions was reliance on God. A Christ-centered relationship isn’t perfect, but it is built on a firm foundation.
Final Thoughts: God’s Love is the Greatest Love
Valentine’s Day is not just about who you’re with; it’s about who you are in Christ. Whether you’re single, dating, or unsure, take this time to love God, love yourself, and love others with the love of Christ.
So, I hope you celebrated in whatever way felt right. This week, have a worship night, treat yourself, or spend time in prayer. Relationships will come and go, but God’s love is eternal, and it is always enough.
With love, Shola Jones xoxo
